"You can die of a broken heart" - it's a scientific fact. Research shows that a real-life broken heart can actually lead to cardiac consequences. There are established ties between depression, mental health and heart disease.You can check here for more information.
To those like me, who have once in their lives, had their hearts broken from a failed relationship, they would somehow agree that it does somehow kill you unbearably slow. Metaphorically of course.
So I guess, I'm speaking from experience but let me tell you some tips - or a friendly advise on how to cope in such a traumatic emotional blow.
- Be with your best friends - for someone like me who's family isn't ideally into intimate conversations like break-ups, it helps to be with those individuals who have known your struggle and who you're comfortable with. Sometimes, even having somebody give you a hug provides comfort and helps ease your pain.
- Let it out - it's not alright to suppress feelings as consuming as a broken heart. Your best friends are there for a reason. Spit it all out till their ears fall off. Telling your story isn't really barbaric as you have to relieve the pain over and over again. It's actually therapeutic is some way. It helps your mind process the situation that it really happened and you're getting over that denial stage.
- Cry and Scream! - You've got your heart broken so you have all the right to cry. Use it. You can even scream your anger out. This is best to relieve all the tension building up inside you and calm you down. Somehow, when you're done, you'll have this peaceful disposition. You won't be likely to march your way over to your ex's and key their car or smash it's windshield.
- Give yourself alone time - they say reminiscing is too barbaric, but I say otherwise. You have to give yourself time to absorb it all. To think about what happened, how it ended the way it did. We have to get over that stage wherein we only blame the other party. In my isolation, I learned a thing or two. I realized things I should have had when I still have the time. Then again, it's done. You can only learn from your past and strive to do better in the future.
- Accept - when you've given yourself ample time to mull it over, you'll have that level of understanding and acceptance.
- Go out! - your life doesn't have to take a screeching halt because of it. Move! This is when you'll take a time off. Take a walk. Go on vacation. Swim at the beach. Hike a mountain. Go paragliding. Whatever. Enjoy yourself and be happy. Free yourself of negativity because dwelling is not healthy. Seek peace of mind with nature. Let your mind relax. Only head back when you feel like yourself again. When you've already felt that lightness in your heart.
After all are said and done, this journey will always get you to the tricky part which is 'what will you do next' ? In this stage, you should have had thoughts and much more decisions on what your next steps will be. You should have had consulted yourself already.
I can't tell you what to do. You are your own self. I know, you know what to do. Deep in your heart. You know what you have to do. Just do it. The road can be hard and rocky, but then, what do we know? It might end up in a field of roses. Or if it doesn't, you can always MOVE ON. Don't push it to yourself. If things aren't meant for you, it won't be your's. You can get it but it won't be good.
Lastly, always remember 'Life isn't a fairytale'. Though, we can always make the most of it to make it better. Because, "Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just got to find the ones worth suffering for' (Bob Marley). Yes, one way or another. Let's just hope that God would give us the happiness we always asked for sooner.
